Don’t Want To Close My Eyes

Don’t Want To Close My Eyes

By Sara Jacobovici
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There are those who are the storytellers and then those who are the storyhearers. The people I work with are the storytellers and I am the storyhearer. I hear their story and I listen to how they tell it.

The act of storytelling is a central part of who we are. Stories help make sense of our world and our place in it and we define ourselves by a story within time. We create stories; verbally, oral and written, and non-verbally, through movement/dance, visual symbols and signs/visual arts, and sound making/music. Where there is life, in any form, there is communication. But only humans tell stories.

And what is that story?

Don’t Want to Close My Eyes

Her story started when she was a little girl playing house and she was the mommy and her doll was the baby.  When she married her high school sweetheart and had a baby boy, her story had a happy ending. Then life reared up its ugly head and her 16 year old son has a sports injury that puts him in a coma and leaves him with brain damage.  

Once the son wakes up from his coma he is sent to rehabilitation for extensive therapies; to learn to speak again, walk again, and relearn to be independent in his day to day needs.  

But this is her story. The impact of her son’s injuries has left her to find a way to say goodbye to the son she knew before the injury and how to relate to her son now, after the injury.  

She is sitting on a chair looking down at her hands which she holds tightly together. “I don’t know how to communicate with him. I don’t know what to say. He seems so angry all the time. It’s as if he doesn’t want to be with me. All he wants is his music.”

I ask her if she could choose a song to communicate to her son how she is feeling, which song would she choose? “That’s easy” she responds right away. “He listened to Aerosmith all the time before his injury, so I put that music on while he was in coma. One of the songs became my song because it described how I was feeling while I was by my son’s side during his coma.”

I asked mother and son if we could meet the three of us. They agreed.  I told the son that his mother wants to say something to him. Then I turned to her and asked her to communicate to her son in her own way. She says; “I never told you this but when you were in your coma I put on your music and I used this song to let you know I was there with you. I want you to hear it now.”

All three of us listened silently as mother and son allowed their emotions to show on their faces.  

At her last meeting with me, she says, “he is sharing his music with me. We’re getting to know each other.”

Aerosmith – I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing

I could stay awake just to hear you breathing
Watch you smile while you are sleeping
While you’re far away and dreaming
I could spend my life in this sweet surrender
I could stay lost in this moment forever
Every moment spent with you is a moment I treasure

Chorus:  Don’t want to close my eyes
I don’t want to fall asleep
‘Cause I’d miss you baby
And I don’t want to miss a thing
‘Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I’d still miss you baby
And I don’t want to miss a thing
Lie close to you feeling your heart beating
And I’m wondering what you’re dreaming
Wondering if it’s me you’re seeing
Then I kiss your eyes
And thank God we’re together
I just wanna stay with you in this moment forever
Forever and ever

I don’t want to miss one smile
I don’t want to miss one kiss
I just want to be with you
Right here with you, just like this
I just want to hold you close
Feel your heart so close to mine
And just stay here in this moment
For all the rest of time

Don’t want to close my eyes
I don’t want to fall asleep
I don’t want to miss a thing

Songwriters: WARREN, DIANE EVE
I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing lyrics © RealSongs

Her story is a work in progress; a story that needs to be told and deserves to be heard.

Image credit: Jordan McQueen

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Comments (2)

  • Sara Jacobovici
    Reena Saxena Reply

    Songs have long been a mode of communication, but to find one that exactly mirrors your emotions is rare. On the other side, lines of a song can induce certain emotions which were previously absent, and create a slightly altered story.

    Thanks for sharing this immensely moving piece. I am wandering on your blog today.

    October 28, 2017 at 6:35 pm
    • Sara Jacobovici
      Sara Jacobovici Reply

      Great to have you read the blogs (and wander about) Reena. Your description of the effect music has on us is very beautifully expressed. Thank you for your contribution.

      November 3, 2017 at 6:33 am

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