Why the Duality of Business and Pleasure Does Not Work
I am an integrator. And it is my business to know how to do that and help others do the same.
Humanity has been struggling with the tension of living in dualities since the beginning of time. This four-part series will discuss the impact of living in this tension and the need to integrate.
Part Three: The reality behind the metaphor.
“I’m bein’ followed by a moonshadow” (Lyric by Cat Stevens)
I remember growing up in the late 1950’s, early 1960’s with the excitement of the race to see who would launch the first manned space flight and then later, being able to witness man landing on the Moon. During those early space flights that took place around the Moon, there was much talk about the time there would be no voice to voice contact when the space capsule would be travelling across or behind the “dark side of the Moon”. This “dark side” has been used as a metaphor in communicating a range of ideas. What is the reality behind this metaphor?
“[O]ne reason that the far side of the Moon is frequently referred to as the “dark side” is because many people mistakenly think that it never sees any light from the Sun. In that sense the term “dark side” is wrong and misleading. In fact, since the Moon is constantly rotating on its own axis, there is no area of the planetoid which is in permanent darkness, and the far side of the Moon is only completely devoid of sunlight during a Full Moon – when the Sun is facing the Moon with the Earth in between.”
We only get to see one side of the Moon from Earth because the Moon rotates about its spin axis at the same rate that the Moon orbits the Earth, a situation known as synchronous rotation or tidal locking.
Two important observations related to the light and dark of the Moon are:
1. “There is no dark side of the moon really. Matter of fact it’s all dark.” (Lyric by Pink Floyd) The Moon has no light of its own. Its light source is the Sun.
2. What we see when we look at the moon is a result of the positions of the triadic relationship of the Sun, Earth and Moon in relation to each other at any given time. In this way, the Moon can actually block the light of the sun in a solar eclipse and form its shadow on the Earth.
These are important observations when it comes to distinguishing between what is a state of darkness and what is a shadow.
We may use or hear others use the expression, “It’s like chasing shadows.” The term chasing shadows is so common that it has an official definition. It means; “pursue illusory targets.”
What is a shadow? Basically, an object that does not allow any light to pass through will form a shadow. Shadows are formed by light, because if light shines onto an object, and the object blocks the light, a shadow is formed.
What we refer to as “shade” is really a large shadow. Seeking comfort in the shade seems to sound better than seeking comfort in the shadow.
“When a situation feels out of my control and I feel like I am being pulled into different directions by other people, I seek comfort in my own shade.” – Sara Jacobovici
When we talk about a shadow being formed when something blocks the light, the action of blocking can take place in different ways. Besides a physical blocking of light, we often create psychological blocks. Originally, when first created, these blocks always serve to defend. Yet, it is often difficult to hold the block for any length of time and there comes a time when we are no longer able to do so. “There is a crack, a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.” (Lyric by Leonard Cohen) This is the worst period for anyone to be making decisions. Awareness is the key; understanding what is happening, adapt, reframe and rebuild.
Finding Light in the Shadow.
The following is a clinical excerpt from a Guided Imagery and Music (GIM) therapy session.
The theme of forms coming from the darkness became the focus of her work. Each session was similar to the one before; “Therese” would go into a deep altered state of consciousness. After the music experience, she would draw. She drew her forms that she experienced in the darkness.
After a few of these sessions, something changed. “Therese” refused the GIM. She sat rigidly on the chair and said, “I know where I’ve seen those forms before…when I was in the dark…I saw the shadows…I was in the shadows…I don’t want to go back.”
Her words drew the images of the forms, she stayed with the darkness and she talked about the shadows. Then she asked, “Will I ever be able to come out of the shadows, into the light?” I asked her to try a different perspective; instead of coming out of the darkness into the light, can she see the source of light that enabled her to protect herself by seeing only forms in the shadows?
Using this question as a guide, “Terese” was able to discover:
“I found light in the shadow”, she said. “I am holding it inside of me. I controlled how much to see. I have the light, I can choose to see whatever I need to see now.”
You can read the second part in this series by clicking here
“Facing My Shadown” – Taken by Sara Jacobovici